When we were school age, it was easy to make friends. However, as adults, friendships can be harder to develop. Not only does this lack of friendship make going to work each day feel more challenging, but studies have found friendships, or a lack of friendships can have a big impact on our well-being. Here are some ways you can foster real friendships with other women at work:
Make it a Priority
-It's easy to tell yourself you would like to make friends with the women you work with but following up on that impulse takes real effort. Ask a coworker to lunch, compliment someone on the good job she did, and invite others into the discussions you are leading. Each day make it a priority to build a closer relationship with the women you work with.
Focus on Quality and not Quantity
-Depending on how many female coworkers you have, you will most likely not be able to make real and lasting friendships with all of them and guess what that is okay. The goal is not to be in a popularity contest but you will be seeking out women with whom you have a connection and putting in the effort to form a lasting bond.
Expect Some Rejection
-The truth is, you may feel a connection with another woman at work and ask her out to lunch and she may say no. Do not let any form of rejection stop your efforts. Just as no one at work really knows your inner life and feelings, you don't know anyone else's.
Like anything else in life, friendships require our time and attention, but when you consider the value and meaning they bring into our life, they are worth the extra effort. If you are looking for some expert guidance on navigating the unique stressors of your work or personal life, please do not hesitate to reach out.