You probably remember a time in school when you wanted to ask for help, but stopped yourself. You might have even had a prompt from the teacher: "Does anyone have any questions?" Still you might hesitate. It can be even more difficult when you're going through difficult times and can really use another set of eyes or hands. If you're overwhelmed with work and home life, or if you're going through some tough emotional business, sometimes you just need someone to help.
If you have difficulty asking for help, you may have learned some less than optimal coping mechanisms over the years. You might try to make someone feel guilty or feel sorry for you. Or in your haste, you may ask the wrong person. Keep reading for tips on how to ask for help.
Be specific: To ask for help, it's best to be straight forward. Know in advance exactly what you need, and be specific with your request.
Go to the source: Instead of going to people who are easy to talk to, or people who are more likely to help you, seek help from those whose help you need.
Offer an exchange: It may be easier to ask for help if you offer something in return. For example, if you need someone to pick up your child at daycare so you can work late, offer a playdate in return.
Are you having trouble juggling work and home life? Are you struggling to deal with some tough emotions and need some support? A licensed therapist can help. Please give my office a call today, and let's schedule a time to talk.