When it comes to taking care of themselves, many people lack the ability to put their own needs first. The idea of putting their own needs first feels somehow wrong, or even selfish. The good news is that it's never too late to learn to treat yourself as you do others; to put yourself first in a healthy, energizing way. Here are some ways you can rewire your brain so it becomes increasingly easier to put yourself first, thereby recharging your life.
Ask for Help
When you've taken on the role of helping others, it can feel uncomfortable asking for help when you need it. After all, you're the one people go to when in need how can you possibly allow yourself to be in a position where help is required? The thing to remember is, all of these people who come to you for help feel no shame or discomfort in asking for it. They need help, they ask for it, they get it. Try to do the same. As soon as you release the pressure you've put on yourself to handle everything alone, you may feel a weight lifted.
Learn to Say No
Being a caring and compassionate person is wonderful, but sacrificing yourself by saying "yes" all the time to other people's needs will deplete your energy. Learning to set boundaries and say no is not only your right, it's your responsibility. Try to start saying no more often, free of guilt.
Get to Know Yourself
Do you know what makes you tick? Self-care requires you to get to know yourself. Take some time to discover what you enjoy. Once you find what it is that pleases you, commit to doing it more often. Having more pleasure in your life will make you a happier person. Taking these actions will have an impact on your life. As you get better at putting your needs first, you may find that you feel more empowered.
Seeking the guidance of a trained therapist can be helpful. If you or a loved one is interested in exploring treatment, please contact me today. I would be happy to speak with you about how I may be able to help.